Dear Julia & Leo,

My parents are never satisfied with my best efforts. I will forever be in my older sister’s shadow and scrutinized for not attaining her level of success. How can I create my own identity and achieve a personal level of success that my parents will be satisfied with?

-Never Good Enough Natalie

Dear Never Good Enough Natalie,

As a younger child, people can often feel like they have to compete with their older siblings, but they feel like they can’t. The answer to that problem is to not think about your sibling. Just approach everything as nothing else matters. Just think that the only opinion that matters is your own. As for your lack of identity, all you have to do is be yourself and your will persona will blossom. Also, if you don’t try to be like your sibling and just be you, your parents will notice and respect you and not compare you to your sister. Another approach to this problem would be to just simply get rid of your sister. Then your parents will have no one to compare you to, well except her memory. No, don’t really do that. Most likely you’ll get in trouble, especially if you are sloppy about it. So, just be yourself and be happy, because if you aren’t happy then you are not satisfying anyone at all.

-Let yourself shine,

Julia & Leo